Wedding planning can be such a daunting task. It is the probably the first major life event that the two of you will plan with each other. So let's start off on the right foot, although we strive to modernize most parts of our lives ,there are still some aspects of society that retain some traditional aspects and wedding planning is one of them. However, many women still want to include their grooms in the planning process. When planning my wedding I did, I bounced ideas off of him, did couple of DIY projects together. And finally I even included him in my dress shopping experience I know some of you are like wait..... what??? Did he see the dress? It was important for me to have him with me, at that time my mom lived in another country, plus she was very ill so she was not able to go shopping with me. I had a lot of people offer to step in and go with me, but it just didn't feel right I wanted my mother to go for my first time shopping. Throughout the entire process of planning the dress shopping was the hardest and most emotional part. But we got through it together so... that brings me to getting your groom involved form the start. Marriage is a team sport and you are going to have to rely on each other when the sea is calm but even more so during rough weather. Believe me it is good to know you have someone you can rely on regardless. It's very important to not take over every aspect of the wedding planning. Remember, it's his day too and you want to make sure you pick your battles and compromise. So here are a few tips to get your guy on board during this process.
Collaborate from the start:
Make sure you're cohesively visualizing your big day by involving your groom from the beginning. Create a list of "must have"s and "must not"s for the wedding. This is a great way to intentionally ask for his help, which will make him feel valued, while setting realistic expectations as a couple.
Have him create a unique guest experience:
See if your guy can take one of his passions or interests and turn it into a fun experience for your guests. Maybe he's a foodie, If so pass the menu planning to him and have him create interactive food stations, ask him to keep it a surprise so he takes full control of the task. The interactive food stations can be opened at different times, each about an hour apart, throughout the evening. Featuring a menu that he selects, and the the guests will love it because it creates an air of anticipation waiting for the next surprise station to open.
Give him complete control:
Offer your guy the chance to be completely in control of some part of the day If he's a music lover then have him to research and review bands or DJs, or pick the majority of the songs. Quite often, grooms will be more excited about the element of surprising their new spouse rather than just checking another item off the to do list
Involve him in non-reception areas:
If party planning just isn't his thing, see if he'd be interested in taking over the ceremony selecting readings for the ceremony or organizing travel logistics,your getaway car or taking the reins on the honeymoon planning for example, hotel arrangements and excursions
Tap into his organizational skills:
If he's type A about staying organized, see if he'll harness those skills with wedding planning. "If he's a tech guy, then find a wedding planning app that you can both use to collaborate on your shared responsibilities. He's more likely to stay engage and excited if you’re speaking his language. Or, that can translate to sticking to a budget, If he's all about numbers and spreadsheets you can utilize that skill for all your planning. Throughout the planning process, you would have an organized way of know how much something cost or if you are at exact count for the guest list because it would all be in his spreadsheets. And another great thing this would take an additional wedding worry off your plate
Ask him to be handy:
Not all guys are handy, but those who are would probably jump at the chance to build something special for their wedding day. Ask your groom if he is on board to create something for the ceremony or reception. It could be as simple as a hand-painted "Just Married" sign or as elaborate as an arbor for ceremony altar. #planforthegroom #planformarriage
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